There are days when you probably just wish you could just lock yourself in an office or closet somewhere just to get away from the people that you work with, but you simply can’t be rude in the business setting. You will want to keep in mind that those who are able to keep their cool look better than those who explore easily. You will need to keep in mind that when you are at work, you need to be nice. It is easier to say you want to be nice then it is to be nice. This is something that you will need to constantly work at.
First, you will need to recognize the reason behind the need to be nice. It’s not for your co-workers to feel better, but you are being nicer so that you can go further with your own career. Keep in mind that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar, and it’s important that you be nice to your co-workers for personal benefit. You may be able to benefit from having nicer co-workers, but you’ll also be able to feel different in the environment when you are nicer. When there are tensions between two people, neither one can really be able to focus, however, you’ll need to lose some of these tensions just so that you can focus on work. There are a lot of personal reasons why you may need to be nice, but recognize that it is in the best interest of your career.
The first step to being nicer at work is to show your boss some more respect. That doesn’t mean that you have to wait on them hand and foot, but it does mean that you’ll need to take the intuitive to accept the criticism and also grow from what your boss has to say. You’ll need to keep in mind that there is a careful reflection that you should pay heed to. You don’t want to just jump up and defend yourself, but try to see yourself through their eyes. You may not be trying to be rude or mean, but they are the way that you are looking at other people. Try walking through the day in another person’s shoes.
Even if you are a brutally honest person, sometimes that is not what is needed in the workplace. You may need to feel less need to tell it how it is, but feel more like sugar-coating things. Often the hard facts can be blinding. You don’t want to hurt anyone, but you’ll want to make sure that you consider your own feelings while considering the feelings of your co-workers. When you are more considerate of other people you are able to focus on work rather than nitpick at what someone is doing or what someone is not doing.
Finally, you need to be a more soft-spoken person. When you take your time to talk to others, and you also learn how to use more inside voices you will be more respected, and you will also be able to work on the way that you appeal to others. Often if you are not soft-spoken in the workplace, you are considered to be aggressive. Aggressiveness is not always a perk for the meeting room.
You will simply need to look at both your verbal and your nonverbal communication. You will need to look at the way that you appeal to others so that you can correct false assumptions that many people may have about you. This will help you to further your career.